‘How do you deal with haters?’
My friend and I was having our casual talk in the cake house across the street… when she suddenly asked me these question. It took me some time to process the deal word because I have come a very long way to face my haters.
People these days are cruel and judgmental. It’s almost cool to pretend that it doesn’t affect us, like we have some kind of armor around us but the truth and fact is it hurts. This stuff really hurts, especially when you have got nothing to do with them YET THEY STILL HATE YOU!!
BUT, here my friends are the core TRUTH of
Haters don’t hate you, they HATE the fact that you are successful, but deny it and express negativity toward you and your accomplishments.
Haters look for the smallest mistake you make and proceed to attack you – never acknowledging any of the positives things that you have done. Why do you think most girls hate the Miss Universe winner or a news representative?! It’s simply because they possess’ the confidence, charisma, aura, strong vibe and are bold enough to walk towards their dreams! And the next thing you can hear from them (the haters) is that “oh she’s got a nose job done“, …”she’s just so fake, everything about her is fake”. Disgraceful as it sounds, but this is the reality in the world we live in.
Remember Inspires, no matter what you do and how well you do it, there will always be someone to bring down storm into your live, so it’s important to learn how to deal with haters.
RULE OF THUMB 1 : IGNORE/ AVOID/ SILENT AWAY FROM THEM
I know, perhaps you guys have done that and it has failed. Maybe you have also did your very best and that too has fell apart. It’s a lot easier said than done, I too had experienced such and trust me, when you master this art of ignoring them, it’s one of the MOST effective ways to deal with them. Think about it in the brighter side, when haters hate -neither of their hate speech is a constructive criticism nor a positive feedback, it has no value to your life.
RULE OF THUMB 2: DON’T RESPOND TO NEGATIVE COMMENTS
See here’s a psychological trick on how to reciprocate towards a negative comment, when a hater start showing their hates speech, they’re looking for a response. Period. All that they actually want to see is your reaction. Now you may ask why? The right answer would be they simply want their feelings to be known.
People who choose to hurt others are the broken souls of the world & they are the ones that hurt themselves often.
If you’re dealing with people who seemingly find pleasure in directing destructive criticism your way–it could be a close friend, your significant other, your boss/coworker, or even your family member–just remember this: Their hate has nothing to do with how they feel about you, it’s a reflection about how they feel about themselves.
RULE OF THUMB 3: DON’T GIVE AWAY YOUR ENERGY
In the midst of all this stress on haters, don’t let your energy to be taken away from you. In my life the most important practice I follow is I would NEVER let my shine to be taken away AND YOU SHOULD TOO. The kindness that you offer to yourself and others can transform a situation (and your life). This also allows for forgiveness, so you don’t carry the stress and negative energy around from your haters.
The bottom-line is- haters feel an inner emptiness, living a sad and unfulfilled life, and they try to fill it with the attention of others. In this way they are boosting their ego. And the more attention you give them, the more food you give their ego to feed on. On the brighter side, show them some love in return. Haters hate because they are jealous of you, your success and your progress. You won’t be able to be where you are today if it’s not for them!
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