The Busy Boycott – A 20 Day Challenge to Help You Slow Down

Busyness has become more pervasive than clutter in complicating our lives. We have plenty of decluttering strategies, but what should we do about our busy lives? I’d like to suggest a busy boycott. You might not think you have time for a revolution right now, but if you ever want time for a life that matters, this is the right time to uprise.

Try the following twenty-one-day challenge and practice each of these simple steps for 7 days each.

#1 Stop talking about it. (Days one – seven)

For all that is good and holy, let’s stop telling each other how busy we are. Perhaps, if we can physically remove the word busy from the conversation, we can stop thinking about it so much. When you tell someone how busy you are, you remind yourself too. You might fell busier than you actually are. Not only that, but often ‘I’m so busy‘ comes across as ‘I’m too busy for you’.

For the next seven days, ban the word busy from your vocabulary. This may be more challenging than you think. When you catch yourself mid-sentence using the word busy, use it as an opportunity to change your response and the conversation.

Tip: Avoid hearing the word busy by asking better questions. Instead of ‘How are you?’ try ‘ What made you smile today? ‘ My brother always asks me, ‘Did anything interesting happened today?’ By changing the questions and conversations, you open up space for connection.

#2 Do less. (Day eight – fourteen)

Instead of searching for more efficient ways to do it all, do less. Say no, and protect your time for what matters most to you. Work with people who want your best, not your busiest. Stop comparing your lists, your life, and your love. Every day for the next seven days, eliminate one thing from your calendar to-do list. Don’t postpone it, let it go. If you are really worried about missing something, write it down and put it in an envelope. If you don’t miss it or even remember it at the end of the week, toss the envelope.

Tip: Know your strengths. What do you do best? What can you delegate or release completely?

#3 Linger longer. (Days fifteen – twenty-one)

A busy life says, ‘Hurry up! You’re falling behind. Do more!’ A slow one says, ‘You can stop now. It’s okay to be still and listen to your soul or stop to say prayers in the warmth of the sunshine.’ There is no guilt in self-care and no shame in lingering or waking up slowly.

Slowing down supports your commitment to create and protect your newfound time and space. Savor good food, conversation, and beautiful views. Fall in love. Smile. Breath. Then, fall in love again.

Tip: Lose the guilt. Instead of thinking about the opposite of busyness as laziness, consider that the opposite of a busy life is a full, intentional life.

If busyness has compromised your health, relationships or work or if it has silenced your soul, take action with the busy boycott. With more demands on our time, the advances in modern-day technology and our desire to be seen, accomplished and important, the pressure is on to do more with less. Instead, join me boycott busy and be more with less.

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L’Occitane Almond Shower Oil Review

Comfort. Hot shower. The scent of almonds. A silky oil. Sometimes, the simple pleasures are the best. This shower oil has to be the best skincare item that I have ever bought. Ever! When I first picked this up, a few people were shocked at the price of this product. I have to admit that this was a splurge product, but for me, it has been absolutely worth every single penny. It also made me realize that sometimes products are worth investing in! So here are the reasons why this lovely shower oil is in my good books.

What is it?

Cleansing oils are incredibly popular for the face but I haven’t seen too many cleansing oils for body skincare and I’m so glad I found this shower oil. I always purchased the L’Occitane Almond Milk Concentrate body lotion, so I figured I would give it a go to the scent of the shower oil.

The L’Occitane Almond Shower Oil is ah-may-zing.  The first thing I noticed when I started using it is that it has that same wonderful almond fragrance as the Almond Milk Concentrate body lotion and speaking about the fragrance, it justifies the price tag.

The L’Occitane Almond Shower Oil – RM 108

What does it smells like?

The L’Occitane Shower Oil comes in only one scent – Almond. I’m not the biggest fan of almonds whether in the form of scent or the nut, but I must say that it isn’t too bad. It is quite a strong scent and leaves the bathroom perfumed for a while after. There is no way that someone can secretly use your Almond Shower Oil because the minute you step into the bathroom, you will know. The smell lingers… and it’s quite nice.

I hesitate to call it a foam because it does not foam nor lather up as a regular shower gel does. It just turns into a thick milky liquid that has a lovely slip and washes off easily, leaving skin feeling moist and soothed.

Fun fact –

I find a little strange, that when the oil comes into contact with water, it turns a little warm. Not scary hot, but just a little warm, like warming up the massage oil. I attribute this to the reaction between the oil and water but it will be interesting to see if anyone else experiences this.

I would one hundred percent recommend this product to anybody. If you have dry and sensitive skin, this could be an absolute savior in your shower routine and definitely one to try.

The L’Occitane Almond Shower Oil is a nice, albeit sweet scent.


The Body Shop Dream Big Christmas Collection

Last Friday I attended the Body Shop Dream Big Christmas event in Fahrenheit 88, Bukit Bintang. This event is also a celebration of their Christmas collection previews.

My last event with them was during the #DreamBIG for International Day of the girl on 11 October 2019 and it was insightful to learn how The Body Shop supports women empowerment. So let’s go back to this event, shall we?

Christmas with The Body Shop Malaysia is always magical, festivity and colorful. This year they collaborated with Fahrenheit 88 to take the grand entrance with the theme #DreamBIG and it was a pretty cozy event. There were huge Christmas decoration and the #DreamBIG mascot girl welcoming by the entrance.

The #DreamBIG mascot girl

Introducing Christmas at The Body Shop

This year, The Body Shop is aiming high. The new gift collection features bath and body gifts, premium skincare sets and fun-filled novelty gifts perfect for stocking fillers or Secret Santa gifts. There are 3 seasonal ranges exclusively for Christmas 2019, the fresh and fruity Juicy pear, indulgent Warm Vanilla and fruity-floral Rich Plum.

When I stepped into the store, there were few booth to-go where the new range items will be displayed with a fun trivia game. One of them was ‘guessing the right scent of the product’ where I was blindfolded and on each of my hand, I had a pamper hand massage using their new holiday season scent, the Rich Plum and Juicy Pear. Luckily for me, I guessed them accurately and was gifted away with the Rich Plum. I absolutely loved the frosted plum smell.

Juicy Pear Body Yogurt – RM 59

With my hands smelling fruity, I moved onto the next booth where I was given a makeover using the Christmas Party Collection: Drops of Glow Lustre Finish Creator and Shine Lip Liquid. The Drops of Glow Lustre Finish Creator is a great base for makeup to give the entire face a nice glow or can be used just on high points such as cheekbones. So say hello to your versatile new strobing obsession!

Last but not least, the concept of ‘Bring Back Our Bottle‘ was pretty interesting. The Body Shop had shared their environmental contributions of ‘Closing the Loop’ plastic recycling project. The Body Shop encourages customers to bring back old/empty bottles, but what do they actually do with it? The Body Shop actually recycles the package and gives it a second life as a fragrancer! Each plastic fragrancer has the same scent as it’s original product, and one can soon purchase this in-store. Bringing your old packaging will also allow you to get RM1 off your purchase. Speak about environmental sustainability!

At the very beginning of the event, we were asked to write a wish on a small piece of paper and to expect a gift in return. By the end of the event, everybody was sent home with this huge Christmas present. Thank you The Body Shop Malaysia for a lovely event and sharing this space with my little brother made my entire day merrier.

Vision Board Event -Deyakanesha & Swarna –

It felt as if it was yesterday. On July 20, 2019, I attended my very first vision board workshop that was hosted by social media influencers – Deyakanesha and Swarnaa. I honestly felt surreal. Seeing them on digital platform for years and then there they were, right in front of me, live. It’s both exciting and surreal. Speak about manifest the life you want eh!

The Vision Board workshop was held in Shah Alam and the theme was ‘Aspire to Inspire’. So one could expect that the event was all about empowering womanhood, lifting up each other without prejudice and certainly planting the seed of kindness and removing the roots of doubt.

About this Event

“When you’re in alignment with what you want, and you feel it, then you begin to manifest it into your life.” Gabrielle Bernstein. Vision Boarding is a powerful tool to visually represent your goals and vision for your life (career, attracting a romantic partner, buying a home, fitness goal) or generally any aspect of your life. It’s putting attention and energy into anything you want. This is their (Deya & Swarnaa) official International event which consists of a vision board workshop, a panel of motivational speakers, a social media Q&A, and a networking party to end the evening.

Refreshment displays

My Take-Home Experience: What Does A Vision Board Do?

Moving your life forward requires clarity, vision and a plan. Without support, the process can be overwhelming. Vision Board Workshops are a powerful and productive way to create a clear vision of how you want your life to be. By creating a visual display of what you desire you invite it into your world. And you don’t need to be arty – vision boards work for anyone. Just show up! By representing your goals with pictures and images you will actually strengthen and stimulate your emotions because your mind responds strongly to visual stimulation and your emotions are the vibrational energy that activates the Law of Attraction. The saying “A picture is worth a thousand words,” certainly holds true here.

I went for the event not knowing what to expect and it turned out to be fun. I wanted to learn and meet up with like-minded people like me but in return received the gift of friendship with amazing talented women across the room. It turned out to be a readily fun day of creativity, connection and emotional awakening. Women opening up their innermost painful life story trusting we have each other’s back and that was just beautiful. This vision board workshop helped me to clarify my goals, define my vision, discover my unique strength and speak my truth.

@inspiredbycherisha

What’s Included for this workshop?

  • A short manifestation and visualization meditation.
  • A Vision Board and Manifestation Worksheet.
  • Energy Clearing
  • An open space with like-minded people to share in co-creating positive energy and good vibes to attract everything you want.
  • It is a great opportunity to reflect, be creative and intentionally define your dreams while taking clear actionable steps to create your goals and visualize your future.
  • And gift from my hosts – Deya and Swarnaa teamed up with local entrepreneurs and gifted us with meaningful gifts.

I went home and practiced it actively for 3 months and I have been reaping fruitful results.

The time you spend visualizing in the evening just before bed is especially powerful. The thoughts and images that are present in your mind during the last forty-five minutes before going to sleep are the ones that will replay themselves repeatedly in your subconscious mind throughout the night, and the thoughts and images that you begin each day with will help you to create a vibrational match for the future you desire.

As some time goes by, and your dreams begin to manifest, look at those images that represent your achievements, and feel gratitude for how well the Law of Attraction is working in your life. Acknowledge that it is working. Don’t remove the pictures or images that represent the goals you’ve already achieved.  Achievement of the goals in your vision board is powerful visual reminders of what you have already consciously and deliberately attracted into your life.

Thank you for an outstanding event Deyakanesha and Swarnaa. You both are definitely down-to-Earth and humble in many ways. Keeping that in mind, I wish the best and many more success to you girls and because of this event I got to meet Vithya Makeup Artist! You heard me, the beauty guru on Youtube. Massive shoutout to my new sisterhood I found through this event. I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

All 3 social media Influencer in one picture – Deyakanesha, Swarnaa Rajalingam and Vithya Makeup Artist

Join their Aspire to Inspire official page today!

World Food Day 2019 – Every Food Counts

Today is World Food Day. October 16, 2019 is a day of action dedicated to tackling global hunger and people from around the world, come together to declare their commitment to eradicate worldwide hunger from our lifetime.

Celebrating the creation of World Food Day is organized in over 150 countries across the world, making it one of the most celebrated days of the UN (United Nation) calendar. These events promote worldwide awareness and action for those who suffer from hunger and for the need to ensure food security and nutritious diets for all. The focus of the day is that food is a basic and fundamental human right. Yet, in a world of billions, over 820million people worldwide suffering chronic undernourishment, 60% women and almost five million children! 5 MILLION children under the age of five die of malnutrition-related causes every day. That’s a sad truth.

Contrary to popular belief, the causes of chronic hunger are not limited to war and natural disasters. In fact, hunger is often a silent, invisible symptom of poverty, and is exacerbated by a host of socioeconomic causes. That’s why this year’s theme for World Hunger Day highlights the Hidden Causes of Hunger, including child marriage, climate change, lack of women’s empowerment, lack of access to clean water and sanitation facilities, and lack of education and literacy.

What you can do:

It’s also important to note that while millions go hungry, 672 million people suffer from obesity, and a further 1.3 billion are overweight. We can change this. This year’s World Food Day 2019 is focused on the theme of “Our Actions Are Our Future Healthy Diets for a #ZeroHunger World”. Last year the theme of World Food Day 2018 is “Our Actions Are Our Future, Ending World Hunger by 2030 is Possible”. 

The struggle against hunger urgently demands generous financing, the abolition of trade barriers and, above all, greater resilience in the face of climate change, economic crises and warfare. Since its very early years of existence, the UN has made tackling hunger and malnutrition one of its key priorities. This year’s theme is not only about achieving Zero Hunger or addressing hunger but it also means that nourishing people while nurturing the planet. This year World Food Day focuses on different sectors to make a healthy and sustainable diet which is accessible and affordable to each and everyone, it’s the time now where everyone should start thinking about what should we eat.

What can we contribute?

In recent times, the result of urbanization, globalization and income growth has changed our diets and eating habits dramatically. Nowadays we have changed our diet as we moved from fiber-rich dishes to highly refined sugar, fats, starch, and processed foods. We spent less time to cook food at home especially in urban areas and in this case, we only rely on restaurants, street food, supermarkets or fast food outlets.

This kind of lifestyles and unhealthy diets reached to an obesity rate not only in our developed countries but also in low-income countries where both hunger and obesity coexist. Now 120 million girls and boys (aged from 5to 19 years) and 670 million adults are under obesity. Over 40 million children under the age group of 5 are overweight while 820 million people suffer from hunger.

The aim behind celebrating World Food Day is to have food security across the world especially in the crises. The initiative taken by the Food and Agriculture Organization by the United Nations has played an important role to accomplish the goal. The celebration of World Food Day helps in spreading awareness about the crucial needs of effective agriculture and food policies which are implemented by governments across the world and to make sure that there is sufficient food available for everyone.

You can make a difference to end hunger today! You could readily Share The Meal using my hashtag #inspiredbycherisha and end global hunger that’s rising. With a tap on your smartphone, you can “share the meal” with a child in need. It costs only US $ 0.50 to feed one child for a day.

Natura has arrived in Sunway Pyramid

Drum rolls… Natura, the global cosmetics company founded in Brazil has arrived in Malaysia! Isn’t it amazing? Last week Wednesday, October 9th was the official launch of its business in Malaysia through the opening of a pop-up store in Sunway Pyramid.

Natura’s decision to enter the Asian beauty market was driven by the company’s core commitment to delivering a positive impact across the globe and the desire for sustainable, high-quality products that consumers across the region are demanding. They have an amazing strategy to reach out to wider range of customers through their established omnichannel strategy which comprises E-commerce, social selling, and physical stores. Around 300 items from the Natura portfolio will be offered under the brand Ekos, Chronos, Lumina, Mamae e Bebê and Natura Homem – as well as fragrances from the Brazilian Perfumery House. Did I also mentioned, all products are 100 % V E G A N.

About Natura

Founded in 1969, Natura is a global presence care cosmetics group headquartered in Sao Paulo, Brazil. A leader in direct selling with more than 1.7 million consultants – a result of the combination of Natura, The Body Shop and Aesop brands. Today, Natura & Co is among the largest pure-play beauty group in the world and a major force for good in the industry. It is ranked as 15 th amongst the most sustainable companies in the world. It was the first publicly-traded company globally to receive a B-corp certification in December 2014, which reinforces its transparent and sustainable social, environmental and economic performance.

It is also the first Brazilian company to obtain the ‘THE LEAPING BUNNY’ seal, granted by the animal protection organization Cruelty-Free International back in 2018. This demonstrated the company’s commitment not to perform animal testing of its products or ingredients. With operations across Latin America, the United States, France and now Malaysia, Natura’s products can be purchased from Natura Beauty Consultants, through Natura’s e-commerce platform or in-stores.

Visit the Sunway Pyramid pop-up store which is larger than usual in a prime location in the Sunway Pyramid mall (old wing), they certainly have a unique store for all consumers. This includes a skincare interactive wall, free skin, and hair analysis, a fragrance personality analyser, and a pampering hand massage whilst enjoying a VR adventure through the Amazon forest.

Alternatively, visit their online store at Natura Malaysia.

Thank you for having me Natura!
I’m enjoying a pamper hand massage whilst enjoying a VR adventure through the Amazon forest.
EKOS hand cream, blended with nourishing Castanha oil and Murumuru butter to treat and soften hands
Andiroba Triple Phase Shower Oil
Visit their pop-up store at Sunway Pyramid Mall

Girls Dream Big – International Day of the Girl

Since 2012, October 11 has been marked as the International Day of the Girl. This day aims to highlight and address the needs, challenges and obstacles girls face in their daily life while encouraging empowerment and fulfillment of their human rights. This year’s 2019 theme is GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

Yesterday in Kuala Lumpur, together with The Body Shop Malaysia and Women’s Aid Organization Malaysia (WAO) we celebrated the #DreamBIG event in conjunction with International Day of the Girl and over 25 girls from diverse backgrounds presented their dreams to YB Hannah Yeoh, the Deputy Minister of Women, Family and Community Development. The core value of this celebration is to stress the importance of an environment that supports girls’ dreams and aspirations.

YB Hannah Yeoh with the 25 years presenting their dreams.
#DreamBIG Event with The Body Shop Malaysia & Women’s Aid Organisation

Hannah Yeoh encouraged young girls to break those limitations people have placed on them and to seek those who would choose to celebrate their strengths. “Wherever you are and whatever stage of life you are in, there will always be limitations. Don’t let that cripple you,” she said.

As an extension of the #dreamBIG campaign, The Body Shop Malaysia and WAO will also be launching a 6 months programme for 16 years old inner-city Malaysian girls from all ethnicity to educate and empower them to take charge on their rights and health, particularly in relation to female autonomy, build self-confidence and physical strength through sports.

The amazing part of all, customers of The Body Shop Malaysia will have the opportunity to contribute to this event, sales proceeds from their purchases with The Body Shop Malaysia will be used to fund this program initiative.

Last year, The Body Shop Malaysia and WAO collaboration on a petition campaign to urge the government of Malaysia to raise the minimum age of marriage to 18 years old with no exceptions regardless of gender, faith and ethnicity. The campaign which started on August 01, 2018 gathered 159,700 signatures and was delivered to YB Hannah Yeoh in front of the Parliament of Malaysia.

Refreshments by WAO & The Body Shop Malaysia
Be your biggest dream #dreamBIG
Thank you for having me WAO – The Body Shop Malaysia

Mediterranean Almond Milk with Oats Mask Review

Maaaaasking article once again! If you already know me by now, I am a complete fan of The Body Shop products especially their skincare range. I think their skincare products are one of the best in the market for any type of skin dilemma that you have. Today, I’m gonna share with you my honest review about their Mediterranean Almond Milk with Oats instant soothing face mask.

I’ve tested their Chinese ginseng & rice clarifying polishing mask, the British rose fresh plumping mask and even the Himalayan charcoal purifying glow mask!! (told ya I’m kinda obsessed on their skincare maaask) I knew I had to get my hands on their Mediterranean almond milk with oats mask because first of all I absolutely like almond + milk + oats. They are great superfoods and having all 3 combination ingredients into one jar of mask is just perfect.

It’s always good to get your skin type checked out before any purchases of mask because you always want to try something that suits your skin without getting irritations afterward. This latest addition is a mask that is designed for those with sensitive/irritated skin. This rich and creamy mask intensely hydrates the dryest of skins, whilst gently exfoliating, leaving the skin looking glowing, plump and comforted.

Mediterranean Almond Milk with Oats Mask Review

This is a really lovely mask. It has a nice creamy texture that glides over my skin with a yummy nutty, almond smell. After application, I left it for about 15 minutes and then added a tiny bit of water to get a little foam up and then rubbed the exfoliating particles in the mask over my face for a really thorough but not abrasive scrub. On rinse off, my skin felt clean but nicely hydrated too without any redness or sensitivity. I think this is a great mask for anyone with dry/sensitive skin that needs a pamper.

If you suffer at all with dry, itchy, flakey, eczema-prone skin and tend to steer clear of more intensive beauty treatments, this could be the ideal weekly treat for your skin. I’d recommend adding this to your evening routine for a few minutes of comforting pampering.

If you have sensitive skin, this mask is made for you. Have you tried this mask already? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

The base of the mask: creamy, white substance
Mediterranean Almond Milk with Oats Mask
The Body Shop Face Instant Soothing Mask

Where Does Love Go When We Break Up?

So, the heart-broken isn’t a disease that can’t be cured — the heartbroken is the strongest most beautiful misunderstood group. They have loved and lost, been alone and grown.

They search for many answers, especially: “Where does our love go when we break up?” — humans crave closure.

Love doesn’t go away, it doesn’t have feet it can’t run. Those feelings created, molded for that one person don’t disappear overnight, they seem to be left lingering in the air — nowhere to go, the love is left in a directionless way hoping to find its way back to them, but more so it doesn’t make it and you are left heartbroken — feeling lost, wandering to get back home.

You invested time, emotion & energy into this soul. But remember there is a bond between you and this person that is unique, that is unlike anyone else — and that love will always be there, not just in you, but in them as well.

What if they have moved on you might ask? You feel hurt, you feel like this person must be better than you, you start to tear yourself apart piece by piece. Let me stop your self-abuse right now. No one can compete with the love you two had.

That new person who you think replaced you — didn’t. You can’t be replaced; there will always be the only one you. They might try to replicate what you two had, but there is only one original Starry Night and you’ll always be the masterpiece foolishly left behind.

Don’t think that when they hear that song you sung in the car together or smells that perfume you used to wear, or finds those letters you gave that their heart doesn’t flutter, that their mind doesn’t race back to your smile, to all the jokes and adventures you went on — or even simpler when they look at nature and see a sunflower that they don’t think of how you radiated in their eyes — they do.

You are missed, just as you are missing them.

Sometimes we selfishly break each other because time wasn’t on our side, or maybe there is another complicated reason for the way your heart broke.

Whatever happened, remember you are loved, you are beautiful, inside and out — keep that heart on your sleeve. Go live, really live there is so much to see in this world than just those eyes you crave.

You’ll find a new love that surpasses the one who broke you.


Finding a soulmate is beautiful but finding yourself is life changing.

Perhaps loving someone has nothing to do with being with them forever, but caring about them forever. Selfless love.

And remember if someone asks: “Where does love go when you break up?” I say the relationship, the friendship might end, but true love never dies, never leaves. It stays living underneath it all.

Believe and know that you are enough, love lost is not love failed. I look at you and I don’t see someone heartbroken, or obsessed I see someone who loves selflessly and that’s the most breathtaking love from the purest soul. You put someone first before yourself. But now it’s your turn to tuck that love into the back of your heart and move forward. I know you’re in pain, I know you love them and guess what? They love you too.

Love is a Choice

Most of us tend to focus on falling in love and use the feeling of love to determine the duration of a relationship. Falling in love is easy to do, almost effortless, but losing that loving feeling is not that hard to do, either.

Of course, when a relationship is new, it is fun and enjoyable courting or being courted. In the beginning, we are constantly thinking about the new person in our life, and wanting to spend all of our time together and share new experiences together. We want to show how we feel by getting cards or flowers or just sending a cute text message.

Feelings, however, can be fleeting. No one seems to want to talk about how those loving feelings can fade, that it takes work to keep the love alive and that choosing to stay in love is a choice we all must make.

Who we love is as much of a choice as it is a feeling. Staying in love takes a commitment. After the rosy glow of the new relationship wears off, we have to make a decision: Do we want to love this person and commit to a relationship together, or are we going to let this person go?

Once we have made the decision that we have found the person we want to be with and commit to, the work begins. A big part of that work is making many other choices.

It is a choice to see the good in our partner every day, rather than focusing on the negative things that bother us. We have to accept them and love them as they are. If we go into a relationship thinking we can change someone, we are setting our relationship and ourselves up to fail. We all have flaws and quirks and are weird in some ways. Accepting those differences is part of love.

We can choose to ignore the petty, irritating small things our partner may do. If our partner forgets to take out the garbage, or leaves the cap off the toothpaste, we can talk about it with them, but we also can accept that this just might be forgetful, and choose to move on. Trying to change our partner into us is one of the biggest relationship mistakes we can make.

When we are unhappy with how things are in our relationship, it is easy to overfocus on what we are not getting from the relationship. Instead, a healthier response is to see what we could be doing for our partner, rather than focusing on what they are not doing for us. We should always try to be supportive of our partner, because we cannot expect anything from our partner that we are not willing to give ourselves.

Another important choice we can make is to choose to remember the reasons why we committed to this person. Our relationship will not always be pleasant and there will be times for serious discussions and disagreement. There will be trying times and even bad times that we will need to work through together. The key to surviving these times is to remember to be respectful, acknowledge our commitment, and work through whatever is at hand together. During these times it really helps to remind ourselves of why we chose to love them in the first place.

Love is all about choices. We choose to see the good, ignore the petty, look for what we could do for our partner, and remember why we love our partner. Choosing to put in the effort to do these things is what love looks like, and with that work comes the wonderful reward of staying in love.