How You See Yourself As An Individual Matters

What does it mean to see yourself as an individual?

Seeing yourself as an individual means, you are clear of who you are. You are clear of your purpose and your protocols. You are clear about your plans and about what you’re up to. Most importantly, you will speak the TRUTH of that all the time.

Many of us don’t allow others to know who we are. I traveled for a while now and put my strength into something more worthwhile in my charity work, meeting people of all kinds that are suffering in silence. Simply because they are not authentic about what they need, what they want, what they are doing, what they are expecting.

When you accept your individuality, you are authentic. It means YOU ARE INTEGRATED, and what you think, say, feel and do MATTERS!

Your journey to becoming you starts with understanding who you are at your core. This is about becoming more in tune with your deeper self, so you recognize what riles you up, what makes you happy or sad.

  • I love me…
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  • I LOVE me…..

There are certain universal aspirations we’re all hoping to attain in our lifetime. We all want happiness, success, love, and prosperity. Most of us believe that if we could just do things a little better, improve ourselves a little more, we would become a better person capable of achieving our dreams.

Sounds good, right? Who doesn’t want to be a better person? The truth is, none of us is perfect and we never will be. But that doesn’t mean we should give up on self-improvement — we are all on a journey of becoming the person we want to be. 

So the day you start to decide that when you are ready to believe in what you think and do. And on that day you will need to believe in yourself what you are capable of.

Acting on principles, in ways that you respect, is another important quality to foster as you develop a higher level of individuality. Make a concerted effort to maintain personal integrity in your life by insisting that your actions correspond to your words. When our actions do not match our words, we are more vulnerable to attacks from our critical inner voice and less likely to respect ourselves.

By challenging your critical inner voice and stop comparing yourself to others, you can begin to get a feeling for your own self-worth. By pursuing activities that are meaningful to you and acting in line with your own personal beliefs, you can develop your sense of yourself as a worthwhile person in the world even further.

Recognize that not everything in life is linear. Sometimes we have to go backward to go forward. Along the way, we have to learn to appreciate what we have, to have gratitude for all life has given us.

Remember to have some fun, and allow fun (and happiness) to be sprinkled throughout your day. Life should not be dreary, so don’t let it be. Surprise yourself and others. Remember to show kindness and compassion to those around you. Try to be a role model to others and behave the way you want others to see you and remember you.

Take one step at a time to discover your individuality. You have a lifetime to improve you 🙂


How To Accept Yourself – A journey towards self-acceptance

The path to self-acceptance is a life term relationship. Every morning when we look in the mirror, we see something different. One day we look great and in some days after a bad night’s sleep, the mirror is merciless – eye bags, wrinkles, bad skin. Sadly, our relationship with our own reflection is wracked with insecurity. One critical look can make us feel like an unattractive blob, while a beautiful smile can reassure us and bring a change in our path. So how do you see yourself?

In today’s world, acceptance seems to be difficult to find. If you turn on a television or read the news, you see stories or images that display a lack of acceptance. The media, in part, can be to blame for this. Individuals are bombarded with images of what is deemed “acceptable”, “pretty”, or “perfect”, which can affect an individual’s self-esteem and lead to a lack of self-acceptance and self-love.

We struggle with self-acceptance and aren’t able to love, accept, and forgive themselves. I want to write about this because I feel that self-acceptance is needed to be happy with who you are in life. I think about how I don’t want to look back on my life years down the road and remember all of the opportunities I may have missed because I was too self-conscious about something small, or too shy to be myself.

How To Accept Your Flaws

  • Forgive yourself for not being perfect. To be good to yourself and do things that inspire you, and to love yourself. Despite all the things you think may be wrong with you, you are able to love yourself.
  • Everything can become more difficult in life if you are not willing to accept yourself for who you are. You could become unhappy, have no trust in yourself, or become a victim because if you do not accept yourself, you may believe what others tell you.
  • Each day is a new opportunity to strive to be the very best version of you. Why should we waste time putting ourselves down? When the truth is there is always going to be someone smarter, prettier, someone more athletic and someone “better.” We all have our faults, but that doesn’t give us a reason to think ourselves unworthy or undeserving of happiness. We are who we are, and individuality is an important value to have.
  • Happiness and self-acceptance go hand in hand. Your level of self-acceptance determines your level of happiness. You can enjoy as much happiness as you believe you’re worthy of. I think that in today’s society it’s hard to step back from busy everyday life and realize what is important. You have to take the time to appreciate yourself. Acknowledging the value within ourselves and who we truly are is challenging, but the reward outweighs the challenges.
  • No one is good at everything, but everyone is good at something. We have to learn to embrace the good and the bad about ourselves and focus on what we can do instead of what we can’t. When you truly accept you for who you are, you will live a life free of self-criticism, and you can begin to face the challenges in your life and succeed.

I’m gonna leave you guys with these 3 powerful thought-provoking questions, and the rest is up to you:

  1. Who is the person that you want to become? Describe this person in detail.
  2. What are the things that you really care about?
  3. Is there anything or anyone who you may lose if you start to live the life you truly want?

Write your answers out in detail. This way you have a full description of the person you want to become and why.

Once you have answered the questions above, you need to make sure that you live your daily life in a manner that allows you to accept yourself for who you are on a daily basis. This requires that you live your life from the inside out. Rather than have others dictate how you live your life, you take charge and determine the course of your own life.

How To Stay Authentic?

Wow. This man is full of confidence, I thought to myself. If I could only be like him. He has everything under control. Strong. Intellectual. Authentic. 

I looked at the car as it drove away and stayed there for a few minutes. This man was everything I wanted to be. But I was shy. I was quite. How am I to be like him with no experience? No money. And most sadly, I have NO faith in myself. That night I went home an turned on my computer. After searching for a few minutes online I found out, that the man I saw today. He was the Vice President of the biggest Utility Vehicle Import Export Company of South East Asia. I read everything about him that I could find and absorbed every article written about him. Thanks to technology, information is at our fingertip at all times.

In the next 5 years, I was working on myself. Everyday. I woke up thinking of my idol and worked hard to gain the respect that I had for this man. Every meeting when I was about to be quiet again I forced myself to say something. Anything. Most of the times it was valuable. Every time somebody tried to take advantage of me I made clear that I am not tolerating this anymore. I know, people knew me as the shy and nice person who always says Yes and Amen to everything. Even though that’s not what I wanted I never dared to say No. I never did what I wanted for myself. All wanted was to be liked and to be part of the group. Whether it was in school, on the football team or in college. It was hard at first and I had to practice daily to go after what I wanted. A lot of friends have turned their backs on me. Thinking about it today I know they weren’t real friends. Real friends would have supported me. Even my family started saying that I changed. There were times that I wanted to go back to the old me. Saying Amen to all there is. Pleasing everybody. Everybody but myself. Then I thought of that moment, 5 years ago that changed my life and I decided to be me. Me. And only Me. Every day.

15 years have passed. December 13th I was sitting in the back of the car while the driver took us to the meeting of my company in a joint venture for a new business opportunity. Me and my brother stomped this business out of nothing and made it big. It took us years to make it happen but we finally did it. I entered the room as I saw the man I saw 15 years ago. I immediately recognized him. He was older of course but he had the same energy. The same Power, the same Look. I went up to him and respectfully introduced myself.

“Mr. Banks. I am pleased to meet you in person finally. You may not know me but you have changed my Life. As a young man, I saw you on 5th Avenue. That glimpse of a moment showed me the way that I have to go. I have been working hard on myself to be just like you. For years. And now that I have the chance… I wanted to ask you a question. It was on my mind in the last decade. Mr. Banks, what is your secret? What is it that makes you be this respected among all your business partners and family members and friends?

Mr. Banks looked at me. He started smiling as he said:There is no greater way of being successful in life than being real. All I ever did .. was being myself.”


© 2017


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Amazing Facts Of Spending Time Alone

Why are people so against the idea of being alone? Alone time, of course, is different than loneliness, and depression. But carving out some “me time,” on the other hand, is a pretty awesome idea.

We are all afraid of the idea of being alone. Most of the time in our lives we make friends with people who are not worth having or be in a relationship that we shouldn’t be. Sure, we enjoy being social, having friends around us and even being productive at work BUT while having everything going we might be sliding out from within. Being alone isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as there are a handful of benefits that emerge once you learn to embrace solitude… you’re going to grow as a person.

Below are 10 amazing facts that will help you enjoy being alone.

Do you truly know yourself? Do you feel you really understand who you are? Most people do not. While spending more time alone may not bring you a complete answer to this question, it can certainly give you a much better understanding of how you truly feel about things going on in your life. You can discover more of your abilities, your passions, your interests, and even your dislikes. You get a feel for yourself, who you are and where you fit in the world. This brings self-confidence.

When you’re surrounded by other people all the time, you’re constantly trying to read and cater to the other person’s emotions. So much so, that you could end up losing touch with your own. When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll gain a greater perspective for your own emotions. You’ll create a deeper understanding of what makes you happy, what upsets you, and what saddens you.

A simple life is a beautiful life. In this day of age, we often find ourselves overwhelmed with things we want to do, ought to do, need to do and are avoiding doing. We have so much going on in life but to what in the end? It’s as if we are all running some sort of race where it does not have a finishing line other than death. People are aiming for a happy life somewhere down the line when the point of living a simple life is being happy throughout the life cycle journey!

Most of us fail to take time to slow down and enjoy the little simple thing – the air around us, children laughing and running in the park, the smell of freshly brewed coffee, none of these can be traded for anything in this world and it will eventually bring great joy and happiness than you ever thought possible. Always remember folks, being alive itself is the greatest gift of all and that should be enough to keep one happy.

Have you ever thought that the only way to achieve happiness is to be happy with yourself? Remember that the only thing you can NEVER lose or NEVER have to worry losing is YOU. Learn to be happy with yourself and everything else that comes your way? Treat it as a blessing!

Distractions are the result of slow things down in our lives. It can be from your day-to-day life or while you are surfing through someone else’s social media. Society convinces us that we want a lot of things when we really don’t need them. Spend some time focusing on your priorities/thoughts and less on actions. It is pointless to constantly go after achievements if you lose sight of who you as a living being.

Most people are afraid to stay alone and getting to know themselves because they are afraid to handle their own emotions. Our ego will mess our mind from doing all the work because we are introduced to our weakness. As a human, we all have faults. We all are vulnerable. And we all have our WEAKNESSES. The choice is up to you- to either ignore them or you can understand and learn how to gather up yourself and nurture your weakness towards your individual growth.

The fact is, most of us are dependent on others for our happiness. We use them as our distractions. But, distractions from what? From ourselves. But the question is, why do you feel the need to keep you away from you?

Our minds are created in such a way that we are capable to store a massive amount of stories and information inside. I’m pretty much sure that I’m not the only girl in the world that finds myself mentally overwhelmed. In the midst of collecting information, we should learn how to slow down and remove ourselves from the constant flow of information and keep our minds clear.

When you are alone you can take time to become involved in activities that you really enjoy with no pressure as to how well you perform them or how accomplished you are. The joy is in the doing, in the experiencing and in your own inner enjoyment of expressing yourself.

Time by yourself can benefit you in so many ways plus making the time you spend with others more enjoyable as a result of being more in tune with yourself and more relaxed.

What would you enjoy doing on your own?